...to love their husbands

Just got home from a little date with hubby.  We had a BOGO coupon for Cici's pizza so we went for dinner.  Cici's is not high class pizza, but they do have variety ... thin crust, thick crust, regular crust ... bbq pizza, taco pizza, mac and cheese pizza, alfredo pizza, ... and the boring pepperoni, sausage, cheese, ham and pineapple, supreme on an all-you-can-eat buffet with a salad bar.  We wandered Target and Walmart for a little bit on the way home and it was nice to be free of the school books for a little bit.

We now reach the point in the list of eight traits of a godly wife that seems, well, kind of basic.  Do women actually need to be taught to love their husbands.  Isn't that why we married in the first place?  I think that the problem is confusion about the needs of a husband.  I thought briefly about the "5 Love Languages" when I read this.  Often I have looked at families in crisis only to think that each member was trying to show love, but was not being understood by the other.  They might be serving the other, when the other really just wanted time.  They might be giving words of affirmation, when the other just wanted a small gift as a sign that they were thought of.  They might be giving time, when the other just wanted physical affection.  I think that it is best to practice all the "love languages" in a home and not just the ones that come easy to us.

In Created to Be His Helpmeet this chapter involved meeting all of the needs of the one that we were created to help. The author specifically promoted meeting a huband's physical needs and desires in this chapter ... without excuse.  Men are created differently than women and their needs are different.  These differences help men to lead, give men the desire to meet a struggle head-on - these differences should be celebrated, and not shunned each night.  It should be our goal as wives, that our husbands' needs are so completely met, that they are never tempted to look elsewhere or left in a weakened state where they cannot resist temptation.  Temptation is everywhere in this world - keep your hubby full and satisfied in all areas.  It may involve simplifying your daily routine, putting kids to bed earlier, waking up earlier, or just taking better care of yourself (proper food, rest, and exercise) so that you are more able to meet his needs.  It all involves looking past "my" needs and wants and looking on the needs of the one who chose me as his own.