Not Acting

It is inevitable that while doing an excessive amount of public speaking a person will occasionally put his foot in his mouth.  I expect that it will happen now and again while hubby is preaching.  He had one such incident on Sunday night when his phrasing of words made it sound like he had a difficult home life :)  He corrected himself, but we took some ribbing for it after the service.  Later he commented to a member that "You know we love each other, right?"  The answer was surprising, yet sadly not surprising in light of the many Christian marriages we have seen crumbling around us.  "It appears that you have a good relationship, or you could be great actors."  There are a lot of people working on their theatrical abilities - especially in church.  Their good works and their righteous acts are bestowed on everyone but those in their homes.

I Timothy 5:4  

...let them learn first to shew piety at home...

I have to learn to show piety at home?  Back to "school" I go!  It must not be a foreign concept if Paul wrote about it so many years ago.  Our society has been taught to put on a good front.  We show others what we want them to see.  It is not so difficult to do via phone, email, facebook, or even the blogosphere.  You can see the victories while I mask the stumbles.  I can paint the picture as I want to.

Are you the same in the home as out of the home? 

Are you one person in the car on the way to church and another when you step out of the car? 

The true person is the one you are at home. 

Are you happy with who you are? 

More importantly, is God happy with who you are?

Repetition is the Key to Learning

In my education classes at college, we were reminded repeatedly to REVIEW, REVIEW, REVIEW.  It was built into the curriculum, but my instructors knew that there would be a tendency to skip the review to make time for something else.  In my own life, I see the necessity of review in my Bible memory, in the messages that I hear at church, and in my own Bible study.  I need reminders.

As I read my Bible each day, I typically read 1 Psalm, a portion of the Proverb of the day, a couple of chapters in the Old Testament and 1 chapter in the New Testament.  I do this because I know that I will come away with something.  Sometimes I need the encouragement of the Psalms.  Sometimes I need to hold onto a principle for Proverbs.  Sometimes I need the straightforward rebuke of a Prophet.  Other times I need the doctrinal teaching from the New Testament.  God gave me some repetition on Saturday.  The message was in the Old Testament and the New Testament.  The message:  "Don't talk back!"  or  "You are you for a reason."

Isaiah 45:9

Woe unto him that striveth with his Maker!

Shall the clay say to him that fashioneth it,

What makest thou? or thy work, He hath no hands?

Romans 9:20

Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God?

Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it,

Why hast thou made me thus?

I really am a slow learner sometimes and these verses always convict me.  This time it was a double blow.

SHH!  Don't talk back!  I have a plan in the way you are made!

Are you listening today? 

What did you learn and apply in your Bible study today?

Asian Noodles

Last Tuesday, we had the privilege of kidsitting for some friends in the church.  I had not babysat since last fall.  Three Little People ages 2 through 5.  I felt up to the challenge and it allowed me to get adventurous with my cooking again.  Since one of our little friends has a modified diet free of many common allergens, I broke out my Autism cookbook to plan a meal that was "safe" for him to eat.  In the process, I found two new favorites for the Bookish household.  I love when things work out that way!

Asian Noodles

1 lb corn spaghetti (I used a corn/rice noodle)

1/2 c light sesame oil

1 Tbls evaporated cane juice or agave nectar

1 tsp salt

1 tsp balsamic vinegar or apple cider vinegar

1 garlic clove, minced

1 scallion, sliced (I omitted this)

1/2 c roasted sesame sees (I omitted this too)

Boil spaghetti until tender.  Rinse in cold water.

Combine all other ingredients and stir with a whisk until blended.

Pour over spaghetti and toss.

Quiet Weekend at Home?

Anticipating a quiet weekend at home. 

You need those every time and again. 

Feels like hubby and I have been "ships passing in the night" this week. 

You know that doesn't sit well around here.  :)

It has all been for good reasons, but there is still a need to refresh. 

Looking forward to a little r&r - hopefully this weekend!

The Best Schooling

I have been through nearly 18 years of schooling as a student and then 6 years as a teacher.  I value structured, organized education.  I appreciate book learning and instruction.  However, I do believe that the best lessons come throughout life as we are placed in various situations.  I am so thankful for those lessons that are learned in the "nitty-gritty" of life.

This week I was "in school" learning things that I never learned in the classroom.  The primary lesson was a continuation of the lesson that I started "studying" while I lay flat on my back about a month ago, unable to move because of a strain in my neck.  The lesson stems from the fact that I am a prideful, independent person.  It was hard to let even my dear husband meet my needs even though he wanted to and was sufficient for the task.  In my independence, it is easy to rob people of the opportunity to be a blessing to me and my family.  It is easy, in prideful independence, to forge my own way, to fail to ask for help, to unfairly expect other's to read my mind.  It is easy to see this in others, but hard to acknowledge it in my own life.  It is a hard balance between "using" others and letting God use the gifts, abilities, and resources of others to meet my needs, but one that must be learned. 

I am thankful that God is not letting me forget this lesson.  I am sure that I will be reviewing it often.

Unnecessary Confirmation

Psalm 68:9

Thou, O God, didst send a plentiful rain,

whereby thou didst confirm thine inheritance,

when it was weary.

It is a cool, overcast morning.

We have had a plentiful rain this spring and the gardens are loving it.

We enjoyed a house below 70* this morning with the breeze refreshing the house.

God is faithful to encourage those who trust in him.

It may not always come in our own timing, but He knows best.

I am so thankful for the small voice of God confirming my path this week.

There are weeks, when like Eve, I want to question God.

Should I really be a stay at home wife?

Does God really expect all of those qualifications in a pastor?

Why do I feel like I am swimming upstream alone? (sounds a lot like Elijah)

Common questions of a sinful woman.

Did God really say ...?

I know the right answer, but I want a loophole.

I want my way and my path and my ... and my ...

This week, there has been no doubt and questioning.

Unique opportunities created for me in my situation.

Opportunities to share, to minister, to stretch made possible

when I chose to obey.

Are you on a hard, lonely path?

Are you sure that it is the correct path of you?

...the path God wants for you?

Then just keep walking in it!

The confirmation is coming!

Peace

It is a common desire all around us.  You can see it in the increase of retreats, spas, massage, ...  It is so easily given up - unexpected challenges that we allow to upset our days and lives.  I value peace in my home and life.  I like quiet, order, soothing sounds.  While we can orchestrate peace to some extent, lasting peace can only come from God and a constant, healthy relationship with Him.  I have been singing this song to myself since Sunday night and enjoying the reminder to keep my mind and heart on God and His ways.

Like a River Glorious

Frances R. Havergal

Like a river glorious Is God's perfect peace,

Over all victorious In its bright increase;

Perfect, yet it floweth Fuller every day,

Perfect, yet it groweth Deeper all the way.

Hidden in the hollow Of His blessed hand,

Never foe can follow, Never traitor stand;

Not a surge f worry, Not a shade of care,

Not a blast of hurry Touch the spirit there.

Every joy or trial Falleth from above,

Traced upon our dial By the Sun of Love.

We may trust Him fully All for us to ;

They who trust Him wholly Find Him wholly true.

Stayed upon Jehovah, Hearts are fully blest;

Finding, as He promised, Perfect peace and rest.

Why I Love Classical Music and the Old Hymns

I think that I had a very blessed childhood.  As a private music lesson teacher today, I watch parents scrimp and save to pay for music lessons for their children.  I see them make difficult choices.  While I see this, I think of the YEARS of piano, organ, and flute lessons that I was given by my parents.  I think of the careful vocal training I received at church.  I think of the years that my teachers poured into me.  My teachers exposed me to a vast array of music, but primarily classical and sacred pieces.  My favorite by far are the combination of Sacred Classical pieces like the Messiah and many of Beethoven's sacred pieces (Jesu' Joy of Man's Desiring).  Maybe some would call me "snooty," but I love the exactness of classical music and old hymns.  There are rules to be learned, followed, and obeyed. 

Why?  Why classical and sacred?  I had not thought much about it until arriving in NC.  I was quickly made aware that my upbringing was rare here when hubby began choosing hymns and our church joked about his "high-church" music and when another instrumentalist suggested that his music choices were not "rousing" enough, especially on Sunday nights.  "High-church" - A Mighty Fortress is our God, Come thou Fount of Every Blessing, O the Deep, Deep Love of Jesus ...  Beautiful pieces that focus on God and His attributes, that remind me of the worm that I am outside of Christ.  I was excited when last night at church we had favorites night and the hymns chosen were Holy, Holy, Holy and Be Thou My Vision and Crown Him with Many Crowns.

I love the 4 part harmony of old hymns where each part seems to move on each word.  I love the deep doctrine that is not politically correct.  I love that it is "work" to learn because there is no vain repetition of words, phrases, or notes.  I love the strict timing and predictability of tones that is easy to sing as a congregation (if you have ever tried to follow the written music of a CCM piece that you have never heard, you understand what I mean).  I love the soothing nature of classics and hymns. 

I am discouraged by the trend of "gospel" music around me.  Don't stop reading!  By "gospel," I mean the sliding, swaying, straining, non-precise music that is common nationwide.  It has many labels - CCM, southern gospel, bluegrass.  Sometimes it is even labeled as good, conservative music on a church website.  It may have one poor trait or a combination of many.  Sliding to and from notes, emphasizing a driving bass line through the use of instruments, echoing phrases in vain repetition, or focusing on lyrics that make me feel good.  It tends to make me look at the performer and not God.  It tends to mimic the world and the culture.  Its performers may look no different than those that you see in Hollywood.  The traits of this music seem to me to show a lack of care, order, and effort toward excellence; it exudes a "come-as-you-are" and "stay-as-you-are" feel; it shows an improper view of my sin nature or simply ignores it; it doesn't seem to support the God that the songs are singing about (holy, careful, orderly).

I hate to hear music in the church that sounds like it is sung by a Country Music star in Nashville.   I am saddened that there are young children being trained to think that it is OK to sing, slide, and sway like an "American Idol" in church or anywhere for that matter.  I am grieved that this seems to be part of the formula for building mega churches.  I am grieved that churches want to mix the sound of the world with the message of the gospel to attract or keep members/attenders.  Call me peculiar (that's what God wants me to be anyway), but God removed that from my life about 9 years ago and when I hear it in a church it is a stumbling block to me.  Those songs are addicting and tough to remove from the mind.  The church may "clean" them up a bit, but all I hear is the music of my past.  I listened to 80's pop/rock in Jr. High and then traded that in for CCM thinking I could keep the sound I craved while pleasing God.  While I thought that I was worshipping and serving God, I was really just feeding my flesh.  It was what my sin nature wanted.  I wanted to have God and the world at the same time.  It doesn't work and it disobeys the following principles:

1 Peter 1:15-16

 But as he which hath called you is holy,

so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;

Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.

 

1 Peter 2:9

But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood,

an holy nation, a peculiar people;

that ye should shew forth the praises

of him who hath called you out of darkness

into his marvellous light:

Am I separate and different from the world? 

Are you? 

Wedding Bells

We are headed to a wedding this morning. 

From all that we know, it will form a marriage that is based on commitment to God and each other. 

There is nothing more exciting than a godly wedding. 

Congratulations

Caleb and Joy Worley

May God bless you in the weeks, months, and years ahead

as you build a strong foundation in Him.

How do you get your spouse to ...?

I think that this is one of the funniest questions ever posed to hubby or myself.  I often get asked ... "How do you get your hubby to pick up his dirty clothes?"  "How do you get your hubby to wash dishes?"  "How do you get your hubby to make the bed?"  Why is this so funny?  It seems funny to me because I don't "get my hubby" to do anything.  He does things that he knows will please me because he loves me (and he has mild OCD) :)  He shows his love by his actions.

Not only is the question funny, but it is a challenge to me.  I want to serve my hubby in ways that are typically shunned by average wives.  I don't want to be average at my job - I want to be exceptional.  I want to surprise hubby.  I want my actions to back up my words.

I tried to "speak love" this morning before hubby went to work.  He is still adjusting to buckwheat pancakes (though it sounds like it would have gluten, it doesn't).  This morning, I mixed them up and added a healthy dash of cinnamon and nutmeg.  Boy, was that a small change that was a big hit!  It tasted like a cinnamon-sugar doughnut (appropriate for National Doughnut Day)!  Then, we dined al fresco in the cool morning surrounded by the pots of flowers that hubby bought me for my birthday.

Will you surprise those around you today with your service?

Will you elicit the question, "How do you get your spouse to ...?"

Why not try it today?